(I’ve gone ahead and taken the liberty to edit your post to convert your questions into a poll, since this seemed to be your intention. If this isn’t what you want, please feel free to revert it!)
As for casual engagement, I am working on adding a chatplace for t/suki. Right now, the primary roadblock is for me to figure out how to set up a better single-sign on situation and it’s been taking some time since I don’t really know what I’m doing and I am also very busy right now.
I currently prefer PornHub’s stance on this, which is to use device-based age verification instead. They originally posted this message in response to Texas laws requiring age verification:
Attempting to mandate age verification without any means to enforce at scale gives platforms the choice to comply or not, leaving hundreds of thousands of websites open and accessible.
As we’ve seen in other states, such bills have failed to protect minors, by driving users from those few websites which comply, to the hundreds of thousands of websites with far fewer safety measures in place, which do not comply. […]
The safety of our users is one of our biggest concerns. We believe that the only effective solution for protecting minors and adults alike is to verify users’ age on their device and to either deny or allow access to age-restricted materials and websites based on that verification.
You can view the full message by visiting PornHub while in Texas (or through a VPN that lets you connect to a server in Texas).
I think trusting a bunch of private companies to handle your sensitive data properly is haphazard. The more places you have to do this kind of verification, the more a matter of time it is that someone will do it wrong. A device-based age verification process could avoid this issue, as your ID could be verified in person without making a digital copy when you receive your device. Then, all websites have to do is check a flag instead of having to handle sensitive data properly.
Granted, I think device-based age verification still has some issues, but I think it has potential and I like it a whole lot better than the current state of things.
So, I’ll keep using Discord, but I won’t age verify and I’ll be trying to move somewhere else entirely.